Dec 16, 2013
The holidays are fully upon us! They can be both wonderful and challenging – a recipe with ingredients of joy mixed with stress. With our families—or even old friends– have you ever marveled that no matter how much progress you’ve made in your life, old patterns tend to mysteriously resurface during the holidays? This happens even with our best intentions to behave differently!
What can we do to transform our experiences of the holidays so they really are wonderful and full of good spirit? How about some “mindset preparation?” We prepare travel arrangements. We prepare food. We prepare gifts. Why not prepare to have a “Learner Mindset” holiday?
Here are some tips that can make a real difference—ways to use the Choice Map and some questions to ask yourself.
The main tip involves the Choice Map. Either keep one handy or better yet, memorize it so you can picture it any place and any time you want. Then, during any interaction you can picture the Choice Map and wonder:
Here are some other questions to ask yourself to help prepare and actually accomplish having holiday experiences with family or even at work that are positive and fulfilling:
Since you know yourself and the people in your life better than anyone, what questions can you add here that could make the most difference for you personally? I suggest “brainstorming” some questions to ask yourself to prepare for a “Learner holiday?” Make this list as long a list as you can. A few of these questions could actually turn out to be transformational for you and those around you.
We’d love to hear from you how you used these tips, what questions you asked yourself and what happened.
We wish you a warm and wonderful holiday filled with love, gratitude and appreciation.
– Marilee and the Inquiry Institute Team