Have you ever walked into a meeting room and immediately felt tense, edgy, or nervous? Have you experienced an immediate feeling of peace in a spa lobby, library, or when you walk through the door at the end of the day? While physical environment—lighting, size, temperature, noise level, and smells—can play a role in how we respond to a place, the mindset of the people in the room also make a difference.
What is really useful for us to know is that we can alter our own moods, our own possibilities, our own relating, our own mindset and by doing this, we also affect the people around us.
When we are aware of how we impact others we have the power to switch from Judger to Learner.
In this video I share the experience a workshop attendee who purposely spread his Judger mindset.
I know that audio isn’t always office friendly, so here’s the video transcript.
So, we’ve learned to manage our own mindset. It’s really funny how it works, but suddenly the people around us, sometimes they’re calmer, they’re more present, they listen better. We don’t realize the impact that we have on people with our mindset.
I remember in a workshop once, this gentleman was very doubtful about what I was teaching. So, in one of the exercises he assigned himself something, but didn’t tell me, or the other person, what he was doing. They were in a dyad situation: they were talking to each other, and while the other person was talking, he would switch himself from Judger to Learner and then from Learner to Judger. Then he would stay in Judger and stay in Judger and think negative thoughts about that person, but not say them. And then, at the end of the exercise, he shared, “I just had the most amazing experience when I switched myself to Judger, even though I didn’t say anything. I could see the impact of my mindset on the other person.”
He was blown away by that. I think that’s really useful for us to know that not only do we affect our own moods, our own possibilities, our own relating, but by doing this, we also affect the people around us.
If you’re interested in the basics of mindset practices, feel free to check out my post on Mindset Awareness.
Have you been in a situation when you were aware that your mindset was impacting others and what did you do? Tell me about it in the comments.
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